80-20

My female owner updated her organiser recently and was astonished at the number of times she had been meeting her Impromptu and Onli Frens.

This pattern reminded her of the 80-20 rule (or the Pareto Principle) she was taught as a young leader in church more than 10 years ago. Spend 80% of your time with 20% of the people in your cell-group (i.e. the people you want to develop as future leaders). She did just that and her investment was worthwhile as many of her girls turned out to be leaders in their own right.

Anyway, back to her personal observation that she probably spent 80% of her available time with 20% of her friends over the past few weeks (my female owner also realised that she wore 20% of her clothes 80% of the time and that she probably visited 20% of her usual haunts 80% of the time). My female owner decided to “branch out” and meet other friends from other segments of her life. After all, they are also important to her.

Starting from Thursday evening, within three days, she met:

- 2 former cell-group girls and a former youth leader for dinner
- 2 ex-colleagues for lunch
- Group of aikidokas for training and supper
- Second Onli Fren for stayover
- theusualgang (her group of 8 JC Frens whom she had not met for ages) for lunch
- a subgroup of theusualgang (i.e. Couple Frens and her Ex-儿子) for badminton and dinner
- a former church friend for supper

In-between all these, she also tried to spend more time at home.. and had dinner with her parents on Friday and lunch on Saturday. She even helped her mother make samosas! But alas, she hasn’t spent time with us turtles. She still needs to prioritise her time!